Eunice Anderson adopted her children in the times of closed adoptions, and years later, and for medical reasons, she sleuthed her way to the birth parents in this memoir.

From the Publisher: The children of The Adoption Club have lots of different feelings about adoption. Michael was scared when he first met this adopted family, and was worried his adoptive family might not keep him. Other children talk about feeling happy, sad and angry, and how feeling can make them behave strangely. This workbook gives children a way to sort out feelings, discuss them and feel better. Written for counsellors and therapists working with children aged 5-11, as well as adoptive parents, this workbook is designed to help children to explore their feelings and behavior. It is one of a set of five interactive therapeutic workbooks featuring The Adoption Club written to address the key emotional and psychological challenges adopted children often experience. Together, they provide an approachable, interactive and playful way to help children to learn about themselves and have fun at the same time.

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About the Author: Regina M. Kupecky, LSW, has worked in the adoption arena for more than thirty years as an adoption placement worker and therapist. She was named “Adoption Worker of the Year” in 1990 by the Ohio Department of Human Services. She is currently a therapist with Dr. Keck at the Attachment and Bonding Center of Ohio, where she works with children who have attachment disorders. She trains nationally and internationally on adoption issues, sibling issues, and attachment. Ms. Kupecky authored a resource guide, Siblings Are Family Too, which is available through the Three Rivers Adoption Council in Pittsburgh, Pennsylvania. She has coauthored a curriculum with Dr. Keck and Arleta James called Abroad and Back: Parenting and International Adoption and has written a curriculum on sibling issues titled My Brother, My Sister: Sibling Relations in Adoption and Foster Care.

Jonquil and Bryan Graham began with the idea of fostering a few New Zealand kids. After all, they had an ideal home for them—a rambling old house in a kiwifruit orchard in glorious Golden Bay. Nine adopted children later—five of them, including two pairs of twins, from Eastern Europe—and many others who were fostered, the Grahams feel they lead the richest of lives. This is a candid account, funny and heart-warming. It also shows the tragedy of children without families and the difference that true parenting makes ... To parents as well as to the children. Love fairly jumps off the pages of this book, along with the ups and downs of family life.

Understanding why people say what they do is the first step toward compassion, as it allows us to glimpse another s perspective. This can lead to giving others grace an undeserved gift of letting people off the hook for what they say that eventually leads us to forgive them. How Much Did You Pay For Her? challenges adoptive parents to develop a better understanding of the motivations behind what can seem like an endless stream of questions and comments about their family, and at the same time, addresses the truth of how these exchanges really feel. This book will encourage adoptive families with a desire to forgive in their hearts to respond positively to those with whom they engage, transforming pain into gain.

From the Publisher: Here is a little of what you will learn inside of this book:

• Requirements for becoming an adoptive parent. In the areas that we can’t give specific information, we will give you guidelines for where to look so that you aren’t being bounced around when trying to figure it all out.

• Preparation of your adoption plan. This plan helps you visualize exactly where you are in the process. Instead of sitting by while the adoption agencies and courts decide your fate, you will be able to be proactive in the process.

• What costs can you expect to incur? Adoptions can be quite expensive, but we will offer a few ideas for you to look into that may be able to offset some, or most of the cost involved.

But that’s not all! Here’s what else you will learn: Types of adoption — All about adoptions — Why you should choose adoption — Adoption dos and don’ts — Children awaiting adoption — Steps to put your child up for adoption — Adoption resources — Adoption photo listing — Adoption records: why are they so important? — Adoption lawyers — Adoption agencies — Choosing the right adoption agency and what to expect — Four places to help you find the right adoption agency — Where to find financial help when adopting a child — First-time adoption — Meeting your adoptive child — Preparing the home for an adoptive child — Five steps — Types of domestic adoption — The differences between open and closed adoptions — Adopting your stepchild — Adopting siblings — Adopting a special-needs child — Transracial adoption — Adoption from same-sex couples — Public adoption — International adoption — The pros and cons of international adoption — Canadians adopting from the U.S. — Russian adoption — Vietnamese adoptions — Adopting from China — And more...

From the Dust Jacket (1968 edition): Here are some random quotations from the book:

“Slightly over 50 per cent of all adoptions are made by persons related to the child being adopted. Of the remaining amount, adoption agencies are responsible for 60 to 70 per cent. Private arrangements or “independent placements” obtained through friends, doctors, lawyers, or other sources make up the other 30 to 40 per cent.”

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“There is usually a waiting list of potential parents, or, to put it another way, there are more applications than there are children. A recent study reported that out of 14,000 agency applications in a recent year 8,500 placements were made, while 5,500 were left on the waiting list.”

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“The number of white children adopted has been approximately ten times greater than the number of nonwhite children adopted. However, nonwhite adoptions are increasing at a faster rate than white adoptions.”

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“There is no federal adoption statute in the United States and very little federal regulation as yet. State statutes govern the proceedings entirely; and, while there are substantial similarities from state to state, each state statute is different.”

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“The preferences of the adopting parents can and often do have a great effect upon exactly what kind of child they will receive. Most agencies try to meet requests within limits, although there is no picking and choosing of children, as there is when one buys a new car.”

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“There are two basic problems involved in adopting a foreign child. The first is getting the child out of his country of origin and into the United States. The second problem is the legal adoption and naturalization of the child as a United States citizen.”

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“The function of the black market in adoptions is easily defined as ‘babies for sale.’ For the entrepreneur in this field there can be considerable profit. This market was born out of the same facts of the market place that otherwise rule our economy.”

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“What is the proper role of the attorney in the adoption process? Basically, the lawyer should serve in two capacities: as a lawyer and as a counsellor.”

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From the Back Cover (Dust Jacket): Approximately one out of every thirty children born in the United States this year will be adopted. The complex problems of adoption produced a multiplicity of laws, regulations, and methods. It is the purpose of this book to provide a complete guide for the couple who is eager to adopt a child ... to acquaint them with the various procedures ... to help them understand the requirements which often differ from state to state ... to tell them about the methods and service organizations available to them ... to direct them to sources of specific and specialized information. The subjects covered include the selection of the child, who may or may not adopt, religion and race requirements, state laws, public and private agencies, independent and foreign adoptions, and the black market in babies. An entire section is devoted to a state-by-state directory of public and private adoption agencies.

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About the Author: Robert A. Farmer is a graduate of Dartmouth College, A.B., Harvard Law School, LL.B., and Harvard Business School.

From the Back Cover: Through numerous conversations with prospective and successful adoptive parents across the United States, the authors gathered the most frequently asked questions about adoption and sought out the best possible up-to-date answers from adoption attorneys, doctors, social workers, and adoptive parents

In simple question-and-answer format, How to Adopt a Child provides valuable information on virtually every aspect of adoption....

• Common and international medical considerations to be aware of

• Frequently used adoption terms and their definitions

• Different forms of adoption:

Agency Adoption

Private Adoption

State and Special-Needs Adoption

International Adoption

Single-Parent Adoption

• and much more

Comprehensive and well-researched, How to Adopt a Child is an invaluable resource for prospective adoptive parents.

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About the Author: Connie Crain is a registered nurse who has spent the past eight years working in the labor and delivery/ maternal child care unit of a small community hospital. She and her husband have one adopted daughter and are in the process of adopting another child. She enjoys traveling, reading, and entertaining friends.

Janice Duffy grew up in East Africa as the daughter of foreign missionaries. She received her B.S. in Nursing from Samford University in Birmingham, Alabama. Janice has spent her nursing career working in the Neonatal Intensive Care field. She and her husband have five children. Her two youngest daughters were adopted from Romania. When Janice is not writing, she enjoys hunting for antiques, traveling, and swimming.

From the Publisher: There is an ever-increasing incidence of applications for adoption in the UK. How to Adopt a Child is the first book of its kind to explain the necessary legal paths to adoption—including new English legislation since the radical overhaul of the system in 2002—as well as addressing the psychological and emotional aspects of the process. Top family-law barrister Jeremy Rosenblatt guides the reader step-by-step down an easier path to adoption, making each stage as simple and as straightforward as possible. How to Adopt a Child covers such topics as adopting as a gay or single parent and adopting a child from abroad. This is the ultimate guide for anyone considering adoption in the UK.

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About the Author: Jeremy Rosenblatt read law at the London School of Economics before working as a Research Assistant at the House of Commons. He is the winner of the Anglo-Dutch Cultural Scholarship to the Asser Institute of International Law in the Hague and a Guggenheim Travel Scholarship to Venice. He is a sometime contributor to television and radio and has written a number of books on family law, including How to Do Your Own Divorce. He is now a family law barrister, living and working in London.

From the Introduction: This is a book of hope for people who wonder if the child they long for can ever be theirs. It is written in love by two people who have traveled that long and painful road to a successful conclusion—and have stayed around to help others embark on the journey.

It is also written to the relatives and friends of those who must travel this road. We know that you also suffer. Your love, encouragement, and care are needed.

Finally, it is written to children who were born elsewhere and adopted by Americans, especially to our own children. Sometimes it is difficult to be an adopted child. We hope that this book helps you understand how you became part of our lives and what your adoptive parents experienced before you did.

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About the Author: Eileen M. Wirth is assistant professor of journalism at Creighton University in Omaha. She is the mother of two foreign adopted children.

Joan Worden is an internationally recognized expert in the area of foreign adoption. She is executive director of KESIL Adoption Agency in Nebraska and the mother of three biological and two foreign adopted children.

Adoption is a process a family begins after countless hours of contemplation, soul-searching, research and input from friends. Many couples pursuing adoption have gone through years of infertility testing and have exhausted their finances and their emotional strength. One look at an adoption agency’s website and the overjoyed parents who have just arrived home with their little bundle of joy is all a couple needs to rejuvenate their devotion to becoming parents. At least that’s how it happened for me. My husband and I had been trying to conceive a second child for several years before we began considering adoption, and opted for international adoption as we are a multicultural couple. One informational meeting at a local church on international adoption, and I was hooked. The two couples who had just returned home with their babies were elated and gleaming with joy. I wanted to be one of them, not the woman who had a monthly meltdown every time she failed to get pregnant. Another couple may choose adoption when they already have children but have decided they have room in their hearts (and homes) for another child. Perhaps they have read a book about international adoption, or met a family who has adopted overseas. Whether they have been trying to conceive a child for many years without success, or have decided to adopt because the world is already too crowded, it all begins with paperwork.

This manual details the actual paper work and legal procedures for adopting a child (or an adult) who is already available, through the court channels. It specifically details, for illustrative purposes, the New York State procedures, but carefully carries other necessary information to insure that adopters in virtually every state could reasonably file for adoption.

This guide describes ways to deal with issues that arise when adopting older children. Written by experts in the field, Quick Easy Guides share little-known trade secrets and helpful hints to get you moving in the right direction. Quick Easy Guides gives you books you can judge by the cover. Our books are short, sweet and cheap. You can see for yourself.

By the Same Author: Gamines: How to Adopt From Latin America(1981, Dillon Press); How to Adopt From Central and South America (1989); Butterflies in the Wind: Spanish/Indian Children with White Parents (1992); How to Adopt Internationally: A Guide for Agency-Directed and Independent Adoption (1992); Butterflies in the Wind: The Truth About Latin American Adoptions (2004, Authors Choice Press); Inside the Adoption Agency: Understanding Intercountry Adoption in the Era of the Hague Convention (2007, iUniverse); and My Portable Life: Reluctant Runaway Finds Families for Thousands of Children (2009, iUniverse), among others.

By the Same Author: Gamines: How to Adopt From Latin America(1981, Dillon Press); How to Adopt From Asia, Europe and the South Pacific (with Gay R Hallberg; 1983); Butterflies in the Wind: Spanish/Indian Children with White Parents (1992); How to Adopt Internationally: A Guide for Agency-Directed and Independent Adoption (1992); Butterflies in the Wind: The Truth About Latin American Adoptions (2004, Authors Choice Press); Inside the Adoption Agency: Understanding Intercountry Adoption in the Era of the Hague Convention (2007, iUniverse); and My Portable Life: Reluctant Runaway Finds Families for Thousands of Children (2009, iUniverse), among others.

This book is extremely practical and detailed step-by-step guide. It contains all the information prospective parents need to know about adoption from Ukraine. The Guide will help couples to make educated decisions about adoption from Ukraine. “How to adopt...” is a real boon for prospective adoptive parents who are newcomer in this matter and are absorbing all the information regarding international adoption and particularly adoption from Ukraine. ALEXANDER BOGACH is Ukrainian attorney specializing in adoption. As the local attorney he takes a sober view of adoption from Ukraine. Alexander enjoys helping foreign and Ukrainian families in their adoptions. You may find hot news and updates regarding adoption from Ukraine on the author’s blog www.howtoadoptfromukraine.blogspot.com.

From the Back Cover (2000-2002 edition): Organized around 23 easy-to-follow steps, How to Adopt Internationally includes detailed coverage of every aspect of the international adoption process, including organizing a home study and fulfilling state requirements as well as choosing a country to adopt from, working through emigration and immigration, and traveling abroad to meet your child. How to Adopt Internationally also includes:

• Detailed information on the adoption requirements for 68 child-placing countries.

• Samples of the forms and documents parents will be required to provide.

• Guidelines for estimating the cost of an international adoption.

• Detailed information on collecting and verifying documents required for state approval, INS approval, and approval of the child’s country of origin.

• Practical information on preparing for the adoption trip abroad.

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About the Author: Jean Nelson-Erichsen and Heino R. Erichsen are adoptive parents and founders of Los Niños International Adoption Center. One of the first couples to adopt from South America, the Erichsens’ research and determination have paved the way for thousands of othr parents to adopt children from countries around the world.

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By the Same Author: Gamines: How to Adopt From Latin America(1981, Dillon Press); How to Adopt From Asia, Europe and the South Pacific (with Gay R Hallberg; 1983); How to Adopt From Central and South America (1989); Butterflies in the Wind: Spanish/Indian Children with White Parents (1992); Butterflies in the Wind: The Truth About Latin American Adoptions (2004, Authors Choice Press); Inside the Adoption Agency: Understanding Intercountry Adoption in the Era of the Hague Convention (2007, iUniverse); and My Portable Life: Reluctant Runaway Finds Families for Thousands of Children (2009, iUniverse), among others.

From the Back Cover (4th edition): If you live with your stepchildren, adoption may be a satisfying way to guarantee your family a solid footing. How to Adopt Your Stepchild tells you all you need to know about getting a stepparent adoption—without spending hundreds of dollars in legal fees. Step-by-step, it shows you how to:

• decide if adoption is right for your family

• determine if adoption is legally possible

• choose the correct adoption procedure for your situation

• prepare and file all necessary papers with the court

• take your petition through the court.

Includes step-by-step instructions and all the forms you need to do your own stepparent adoption in California.

Note: This book does not cover private or agency adoptions.

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About the Author: Frank Zagone has been a social worker for more than 20 years. He now works in the Children’s Protective Services Department, helping abused and neglected children.

Mary Randolph gave up the practice of law to write and edit Nolo books, and never regretted it for a minute. She received her law degree from Boalt Hall, the law school at the University of California—Berkeley. She is the author of The Deeds Book, and Dog Law, and the software Nolo’s Living Trust.

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Compiler’s Note: The sixth edition of this book was published in 2003 under the title Do Your Own California Adoption: Nolo’s Guide for Stepparents and Domestic Partners, which is listed separately on this site.

From the Publisher: Discover tremendous and useful information inside of this book! Information such as:

• Requirements for becoming an adoptive parent
In the areas that we can’t give specific information, we’ll give you guidelines for where to look so that you aren’t being bounced around when trying to figure it all out.

• Preparation of YOUR adoption plan
This plan helps you visualize exactly where you are in the process. Instead of sitting by while the adoption agencies and courts decide your fate, you will be able to be proactive in the process.

• Types of adoption
There are numerous types of adoption...and some of these types have subtypes of their own. We’ll break them all down and allow you to analyze which is best for your specific situation.

• What costs can you expect to incur?
Adoptions can be quite expensive, but we’ll offer a few ideas for you to look into that may be able to offset some, or most of the cost involved.

• And more...

It is important to have a most intimate relationship with your children. This book explains some key guidelines to help you have a closer relationship with your children. This book is produced by Conquered By Love Ministries. Authors Imran and Tami Razvi are the parents of 11 children (4 birth children and 7 adopted children). In their dozens of parenting books they teach the unique, practical parenting techniques which make their family so unified. Their adoption books share the skills for healing traumatized children that have helped their family overcome seemingly impossible challenges.

How do you create an adoption portfolio that will show prospective birth families why you are the perfect adoptive parent for their child?

• Do you know which pictures to include and which to leave out?

• Do you really understand what prospective birth parents care about?

• Do you know how to make your portfolio unique, and set it apart from the others?

This is a step-by-step guide to creating a portfolio which will reflect your personality, make a strong positive impact and encourage the right birth family to choose you. Madeleine Melcher shares the secrets she has discovered over years of creating successful portfolios, profiles and prospective birth parent letters. She combines simple and effective design ideas and tips for writing and layout with a deep understanding of how portfolios work. Importantly, this book also draws extensively on the experiences of birth mothers and the professionals who support them to examine what they really look for, and it features the questions prospective birth mothers will want to see answered in your portfolio.

From text to design, this guide will give you the confidence to create a portfolio that sets you apart. It is essential reading for prospective adoptive parents, as well as the adoption attorneys and agencies advising those hoping to adopt.

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About the Author: Madeleine Melcher is an adoptee, motherof three blessings of adoption, as well as the owner of Our Journey to You, a company dedicated to designing adoption portfolios and adoption profiles. She has helped countless prospective adoptive parents create their adoption portfolios, her designs have led some of her clients to be chosen within mere days of their portfolio submission. She lives with her husband and children in the Midwest, USA.

Explains in simple language Florida’s adoption laws. About the Author: Gudrun Nickel is an attorney and author of numerous self-help law books.

Adopting a child can be a long process. Finding the right agency for your family is an important first step on your journey to becoming a parent through adoption. Written by experts in the field, Quick Easy Guides share little-known trade secrets and helpful hints to get you moving in the right direction. Quick Easy Guides gives you books you can judge by the cover. Our books are short, sweet and cheap. You can see for yourself.

If you’ve ever thought to yourself, “I would love to adopt, but it’s just so expensive and we can’t afford it!” then this is the book for you! As much as I understand that concern, I also know it’s a myth. If you long to bring a child into your home through adoption, you can afford it! You just need to know how. How to Fund Your Adoption was written to equip you with the tools and ideas you need to move forward and take those first steps to realizing your adoption dreams. More couples would step forward to adopt if they would stop believing the lie that only the most wealthy families can adopt. It is my prayer that this helpful and encouraging guide to funding adoption will motivate more families to take a step of faith and open their hearts and homes to children who need them.